The Dreaded Door Dilemma
By
Rob Cottignies
Here’s the scene:
I walk up to a store, pull
the door open, and slide into the building. For some reason, I glance behind me.
Some guy is walking toward the entrance, about 30 feet away.
My goal was to enter the
store, which I’ve done. Time to move on to Phase 2, right? Time to buy new
pants and a flashlight, right!?
Maybe not.
Obligation overwhelms me.
But why should I hold the
door open for this guy? I saw him get out of a car so he was clearly able to drive
himself here. He’s walking upright and both of his arms seem to function just
fine. The door isn't heavy. Surely, he’s capable of opening it for himself.
I thought too long about
it so here I am, half in a store's foyer, holding a door open with my body bent
in some strange way which bodies were not meant to bend. Now this not-heavy
door is feeling heavy. I still have time to let it go and walk in.
And what would happen? A
stranger thinks I’m rude. Even if he says something, I can pretend I'm sorry and
be done with it.
But no, I'll hold it for
him because that's what's "supposed to" be done.
What happens when he finally
reaches the door? He turns left. No acknowledgement. No appreciation. And no
result from my unnecessary struggle. This time was truly wasted.
…
What’s the solution? Is
there proper etiquette for this common situation?
Normally, I’d say
flinging the door open and walking in like The King without further touching
said door would be the answer. This way you were never holding the door, even
for yourself. If you don’t look back, how could you know someone was there?
But of course you know when someone is there.
Here are some proposed actions
to be taken which are directly based on the person’s distance to the door:
If the person is more
than 35 feet from you, absolutely do not consider holding the door. Use your
eyes to judge and give or take fifteen feet, but only take the fifteen. You owe
this person nothing. And maybe you have a nice butt, so this person should be
grateful for the opportunity to see it in action.
That's simple enough, but
what if the person is…
…disabled, physically or
mentally? Hold the door and step to the side, allowing them to pass. Not doing
so could make strangers think you’re awful, which is usually fine, but that
breed of awful is unacceptable.
…obscenely ancient and
near-blind? Do the same because they might think you work for the store and
give you a nice wrinkled dollar.
…a mom with children?
Immediately walk in like The King and let the door close behind you. Don’t help
her kids; they need to learn for themselves. Odds are they will be unruly so
Mom won’t have time to scold you when she doesn’t understand your superior
parenting skills.
…a person with a baby in
a stroller? Ugh, hold the door. It’ll be awkward but watching the mess of that
person trying to enter the store backwards while preventing the door from
crushing the spawn would be embarrassingly worse.
…a store employee? Stand
aside and wait for him to open the door for you. Maybe he'll make commission
from the money you spend. Because of that possibility, he should not only hold
the door open, but laud you with praises and drop rose petals as you enter like
The King.
The only situation left
completely up to your discretion is if you fancy the person walking toward the
store. I enjoy attractive people but there’s no way I’m making my new pants and
flashlight wait longer than they already have because a cute stranger is
approaching. She’d probably just continue to think that chivalry is dead, and
she'd probably be correct.
Besides, what would
realistically happen? I’d hold the door and she’d immediately declare love? At
best, I’d get a snotty look and a passive declaration of gratitude.
…
NOW, what if someone is holding the door for you???
Turn away. I’d rather be
skinned than deal with that nightmare.
If I see someone about to
enter a store thirty feet in front of me, I stop to do some mindless activity
until the person is fully inside. There’s no way I’m witnessing that pathetic
smile as someone tries to be “nice” while holding the door for me. And then I’d
be expected to thank this person!
‘Gee, thanks for doing something I can easily do for myself. Want to tie my
shoes next?’
Point is- Stay away from
doors, even at home. Jump through open windows so each time can be a grand
adventure.
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